Josh. Stop what you’re doing, and go read this post:

Advice for expectant dads

I know you’ve gotten lots of advice from lots of folks on what to expect in 6 weeks when your kid gets here, but that post by Todd has some really great info for you to think about when you’re heading to the hospital… wish I’d have read it prior to heading to the hospital.

Oh, and the other piece of advice I’ll give you is this: You’ll forget all the advice you got from everyone from the moment they tell your wife to start pushing until the moment your kid pops out. Just listen to the professionals… they know what they’re doing.

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I downloaded some more photos from this weekend tonight:

Shoes, Church and Groceries – photos from the shoe fitting, the ride home, church on Sunday, a trip to the grocery store on Monday, and bathtime last night.

Also, here are some photos I took of Dylan and Herbert (neighbors down at the end of the street) flying a kite last weekend.

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Heh… Josh said cognizant.

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We spent this weekend around the house… relaxing, playing and enjoying ourselves.

On Friday afternoon, Christine Jack and I went out into the front yard to play with our new bubble machine. It blows really big bubbles, and Jack loves trying to chase them down. While we were playing, and airplane flew over head… so Jack started imitating it. I don’t think he realizes the wings go straight out from the plane’s sides yet, but he’ll get it soon enough.

Before dinner, Jack and I watched the sun disappear over the house across the street.

After dinner, Jack gave me this look:

Sort of a “shit-eatin’ grin” don’t you think?

There are more photos from Friday here.

Then on Saturday morning, Jack and I got up early to play while Christine slept in a little (Jack only let her sleep until 8 though).

Around 10:00, we all headed to Sandy’s Shoes… a local kid’s shoe store for Jack’s first shoe fitting. It’s a fun store, but I think at least 20 other parents had the same idea, because the store was crazy when we got there. We played with toys, while we waited for Jack’s name to be called. While we were waiting, Jack tripped on the carpet and banged his noggin’ on the front door of the store. It left a mark (ouch!).

Jack got a pair of brown Mobility shoes, after the fitting lady checked his foot size. We bought a size 5 shoe, which should last him all summer… Jack is in this weird foot stage where neither the little baby shoes nor the big boy shoes we’ve been loaned/given don’t really fit that well, so we figured a good solid pair of sandals was in order for him. And, we know that someone else will wear those shoes someday… so they’ll get plenty of use. (We hit the mother lode when we had a boy, because my cousin Cheri has two older boys, and she gave us about a bazillion shoes for Jack!) You can see the new shoes here and here.

Right after buying the shoes, Jack got to eat lunch at Schlotsky’s… we all enjoyed it.

After getting shoes, playing in the front and back yard (got a cool photo of some bees drinking back there) and taking a nap, we waited for Christine to get home. Christine went to a get together with her friends around 1:00. They were meeting to discuss a book Cyndi bought that is supposed to help with their career decisions. Christine came home invigorated about the future.

We all loaded up in the car, and headed to Lakeway when she got home. Debbie and Raymond brought us a rocking chair for Elise, so we needed to get that, and we hadn’t seen Debbie since Christmas (we saw Raymond a few weeks ago here in Austin at a photographer’s convention that I totally forgot to write about).

After chatting for a little while, we loaded up the cars and headed to Mulligan’s to eat. Great food for a pool hall… glad they took us there. We’re definitely going to have to eat there again sometime.

We got home sort of late, so we quickly bathed Jack and put him to bed, before turning in around 9:00 ourselves.

More photos from Saturday here.

On Sunday, I got to sleep in, and Christine and Jack got up to play… then we got dressed and headed to church. At church we saw Erin and her new beau, Chris. Jack spent church in the nursery, so after church the four of us headed over to pick him up. Turns out Jack was a little clingy throughout church (and today was communion – so it was a long one) so they held him the entire hour and a half. Heh. Oh, and by the way (this one’s for Frank) we got taken at the second offering Frank… I thought only Catholics had second offerings before today, but nope… it’s infected the Methodists too.

We headed home after church, had some Macoroni and cheese, and Jack and Christine took a nap. I washed both the rice-burner and the safety-mobile and then I took the Honda for a lube job. When I got home, Jack had just woken up, so we loaded up the car and headed to Josh and Elise’s for a little play time and dinner.

Jack and Josh posed for an 80’s rock band album cover in between looking at the moon and a lady bug lawn ornament Josh has in the back yard while Christine and Elise chatted it up inside (talking pregnancy tips I’m sure). Jack also had a blast climbing up and down the steps on Josh’s deck. Gonna have to get me one of those soon.

Josh cooked steaks out on the barbie, and Elise made mashed potatos inside. We enjoyed dinner immensely… especially the ice-cream pie we had for dessert, and then we tootled on home to put Jack to bed and catch the end of the Oscars.

Photos from Sunday here.

Thank God Crash won best picture. Great movie and I don’t know that I could hear much more about Brokeback Moutain before I started puking… know what happens to gay cowboys in Bellvile folks? Neither do I… there aren’t any gay cowboys in Bellville.

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Amanda brought Benjamin over today to play with Jack (Tuesday is Ben and Jack day in the Engler and Parks households).

I spied them in the backyard, so I grabbed the camera for a few quick shots:


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As I read Josh’s recent post about feeling his baby’s kicking for the first time it made me smile and think back to that same feeling I had back then. Congrats Josh.

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On December 3rd, Jack, Christine and I met Cyndi, Marc and Rowan at the State Capitol to attend the city tree lighting ceremony.

It was pretty neat, and Jack had lots of fun.

They had a large stage setup on the Capitol steps, and a choir, and Christmas music playing.

Mayor Will Wynn led the countdown with the crowd to the lighting of the tree, and funnily, the tree didn’t light at the right time… but it lit up within 10 seconds or so of when he finished his countdown.

We took lots of photos, and sat on the Capitol lawn and chatted with Marc and Cyndi when one of them wasn’t chasing Rowan all over Austin (he’s into the running around and just running and running stage now – now I know what my mom was saying when she said the race is on).

When it was time to go, Jack got super pissed that Christine wouldn’t let him drink Cyndi’s Fresca, and he threw a decent little fit (he’s just starting to do that bad enough that we call it a fit).

Until that is, we let him walk basically from the Capitol to the car. Along the way, Rowan and Jack ran up and down a hill that is on the Capitol grounds… and up and down… and up and down… (I just figured out why my back hurts so bad today).

Then Christine tried to get Rowan to roll down the hill by showing him how to do it. She rolled and rolled and rolled… heh… Jack thought it was hilarious. I wish I had a photo of that for you all.

The rest of the photos from the evening are here. Merry Christmas.

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On Saturday the 26th, we packed the house with 25-30 people to celebrate Jack’s First Birthday at a Party all for him. Honestly this is the most people we’ve had at the house since we moved in, and I’m glad no one else showed up… the house was pretty full with just 25 people here…

The Buckaroo theme was in full force, and Jack wore his trusty bandana through the whole party, just in case some of the rustlers in attendance stirred up too much dust.

Here are some photos from Jack’s First Birthday:

See the rest here.

Also, here’s a video from the party. It’s a really big file, so if you’re not on cable or DSL internet, don’t bother… we’ll show it to you next time you visit:

Again, that movie is huge, so if you’d rather watch a smaller version that’s about half that size, follow this link. They’re both still pretty big movies… sorry about that. If the movie doesn’t work for you, follow the link to “Download Quicktime” on the right side of the englers.org homepage, and get the latest version for your computer.

Talk about some cool presents … many many great toys that Jack is still getting out of their packaging this week. Thanks all, very much. Very, very much. The party was a lot of fun for us, and I hope it was for our guests… it meant a lot to us to have everyone there.

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We got this email from one of our neighbors the other day:

From: “Lori Levy”
Date: November 17, 2005 12:53:46 PM CST
Subject: first pictures of dashiell

Hi Friends and Family,

Dashiell Leverant Levy was born November 11 at 3:23 a.m.
He weighed 7 lbs. 6 oz and measured 19 3/4 inches.
Everyone is home and doing well!!
 
Love to all,
 
Lori, Herbert, Dylan and Dashiell

Cute kid:

And to think, we saw them just two weeks ago or so at the Halloween play group, and they didn’t know what they were going to name him… Congrats Lori and Herbert. And congrats to little Dylan on the new little brother.

Jack is looking forward to playing with you guys soon.

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I really want a high-end digial SLR now. And some great lenses. And Marc’s experience.

Here are a few of the photos that Marc took when we went out to Mayfield Park last weekend:


Jack is almost a year old


This is my buddy


Me and My buddy


Damn that kid is photogenic

See the photos from that day here. You should see them as printed photos… they look awesome in the real world… so much detail doesn’t come through when you shrink the photos down enough to fit on the web easily… so for that, I apologize. The photos really do look awesome in person.

Man, I need a good camera, and about 20 years of experience using it.

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On Saturday morning, Christine and I loaded up Jack into the Volvo and headed for Mayfield Park. It’s official name is Mayfield Nature Preserve, and it’s located in Austin near Mt. Bonnell, right off West 35th Street.

It was our first time to visit, and we were there to help Cyndi and Marc capture some good family photos of them with Rowan, while also getting our own pictures taken.

I’ve got to say that Mayfield Park is pretty cool. When you first park, and walk into the preserve, you’re greeted by lots of peacocks… which I wasn’t expecting. The park area that we visited has multiple lilypad filled ponds and lots of flower and planting beds that are cared for by local groups that volunteer their time to support the park.

We didn’t hike the trails, but I wish we would have (we’ll have to do that next year). I read a story of someone else’s hike today, and I’m interested in seeing more of the park (it’s 22 acres in size, and we only visited about 1 acre of the land).

It was fun to spend time with Cyndi, Marc and Rowan, and we got some good photos too. See them all here.

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Tonight is Jack’s first Halloween, and because it’s a Monday, he’ll actually be dressing up for the 3rd time this weekend.

On Saturday, Christine, Jack and I headed over to a neighbors house for their 2nd Annual Halloween Playgroup (yess, grown men go to playgroups too). Jack was too cute, as were the other kids in the neighborhood.

Jack was a “Jack in the box” this year, and he wore a costume that was completely handmade. Christine made the outfit on her sewing machine, and we painted the box in the backyard. The final touches to the outfit were added here and there (that means while Jack was napping) over the past week, with it all coming together on Friday night. The end result:


Christine did a great job, didn’t she?

We loaded our “Jack in the box” up in his little red wagon, and walked around the corner to the neighbor’s. Jack made it about 1/2 way before he had to come out of the box… he wasn’t digging it as much as we’d hoped.

At the playgroup, all of the kids played inside and outside, with parents hovering, talking, and taking photos. It was our first time to meet the hosts, and they were lots of fun. At the party, two of the five moms that were present were pregnant… must be something in the water.

See all of the photos from the playgroup here, those kids sure were cute. There’s nothing like seeing Superman testing the slide before going down it, or Piglet sitting at the foot of the slide. Here’s a princes in a swing, and another princess trying to get up on the hammock, a Jack sliding down the slide, and a hula girl sliding down too.

We came home around 5:30 and relaxed before our more adult party that started at 7:30.

Around 7:40, we headed over to Erin Taylor’s house for Carlo and Erin’s annual Halloween bash. We’ve attended this party two years in a row now, so we were excited about taking Jack this year. They toned it down a bit this year, but it was loads of fun…

Here’s a photo of the “Classic Toy Family”:


Baby Doll, Jack in the Box, and a Toy Soldier

See the rest of the photos from Carlo and Erin’s party here. And yes, Jack was the life of the party till Jack and I came home at 9:00 … after that, you’ll have to ask Christine, but I heard that it got pretty crazy.

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On Tuesday morning, Brad Patak called and left a voicemail for me saying that he had an extra ticket to the Merle Haggard concert that night, and asked if I wanted to go.

I immediately called Christine and asked permission to go. She consented, and so I called Brad back to accept the invitation. I was going to see Merle Haggard in concert!

Around 6:00 p.m., Brad met me at my house, and I drove over to the Backyard. We parked, and got our tickets from Will Call, and entered the concert. Merle was playing at “the Glen” which is a smaller venue at the Backyard’s location. It was nice and cozy, and had maybe 20 rows of seats down near the stage, and lots of grass seating as you progressed up the hill from the stage to the entrance at the back of the venue.

When we arrived, some band was playing the opening, warming up the stage for Merle. We got two beers each, and hung out in the back talking.

Around 8:00, one of Merle’s long time friends and songwriters (Freddie Persons maybe?) came on stage and playing a few songs to warm up the crowd a little more. He also had some great one-line zingers that he threw in there between songs… Brad and I got a chuckle out of that.

Then Merle finally came on, and he opened with Mama Tried.

Talk about cool… seeing Merle Haggard play in a relatively small venue, listening to his signature guitar riffs and singing along with the songs we know all of the words too. Songs like: Mama Tried, Working Man’s Blues, Fightin’ Side of Me, Silverwings, etc…

Merle closed the show at 9:15 or 9:30 with Okie from Muskogee, and the crowd tried to get into it with him… I think they would have, but the venue didn’t keep the lights on the crowd long enough… Everyone was singing, but not standing and really putting there all into it. Bad move on the lighting guy’s part.

After Okie from Muskogee, Merle was done, which was bittersweet. It was good because it was 9:30 on a Tuesday night, and I had to get on a plane at 7:00 a.m. on Wednesday morning, we still had to stop by Josh and Elise’s to let their cat in (they flew to Vegas Tuesday afternoon for the night) and we both needed to get home as it’s a work day today. But it was bad, because we wanted to see one or two more songs… we wanted an encore.

Regardless, it was a great night. How many people get to see Merle Haggard on a Tuesday night in the Hill Country surroundings of Austin? Not many, I’d bet.

Thanks for the invite Brad… we’ll have to do it again.

update: I posted the photos I took at the concert here.

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Jack and I went over to Josh and Elise’s house this weekend, to watch Josh cook up pounds and pounds of Tuna filet that Phillip Ivey caught offshore recently. I don’t have time right now to write up a good story for the whole night. Suffice to say that Jack and I had a blast, and the food was mmmm, mmmm scrumptious.

Here’s a photo from the evening, where I got to display my super powers:

A Father’s Super Powers

Too funny Josh!

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On Thursday night, Christine and her group of girlfriends got together for their “Third Thursday Thenorita’s” night.

As Christine was getting ready, Cyndi called and wanted to tell Christine that she was running late too, and that she was probably taking Rowan with her, and that she’d only be staying for a few minutes, but that she was definitely going to “drop by”…

I couldn’t let that stand, so instead of handing the phone to Christine, I told her to just bring Rowan over, and that I’d watch him…

Ummm. As soon as that slipped out of my mouth I thought to myself “oh shit… what did I just volunteer for?”

Cyndi said “are you sure?”

I said “of course I’m sure… bring him over, we’ll see you in a bit.” And I hung up.

So, around 5:30, Cyndi showed up, and brought Rowan in the house. He was acting shy, but Christine was almost ready, and so, we all walked outside, with the Wesley dog, and got the little red wago out of the garage.

I put Jack into it, and then asked Rowan if he wanted to walk or ride to the park. He just sort of whined and clutched himself closer to his mommy… so we explained that she was leaving and he had to stay with me.

Cyndi handed him to me, and I held him, and he seemed okay… though he didn’t want to stand up, or to sit in the wagon… and he was heavy (man that kid’s getting big … he’s 2 years and 2 months old), so I slung him up on my shoulders, and we all set off for the park.

I had Rowan on my shoulders, was pulling Jack in the wagon and holding onto Wesley’s leash, somehow, while carrying a camera in one shorts pocket and a cell phone, keys, and garage door opener in the other… I’m sure I looked sort of funny…

Jack and RowanAbout 1/4 of the way to the park, Rowan pointed at the wagon and sort of grunted at it… with a little “down” word coming out of his mouth, so I asked him if he wanted into the wagon, and he said “uh, huh”

I put him into the red wagon with Jack and he buckled himself in, which impressed me, and we all three strolled on to the park… having a merry old time.

When we arrived at Patterson Park, I slowly pulled Jack and Rowan up the hill from the street to the playground. As we four-wheeled it across all of the bumps and rocks, Rowan started giggling at every bump… so I looked for more of them… and he giggled more, contagiously getting Jack to giggle along with him. It was cute.

As we arrived at the playground, I got Rowan out of the wagon first and put him on the ground. He took off running after the black birds that were playing under some trees, as I took Jack out of the wagon, then my cellphone rang. It was Brad Patak, and he was around the corner at my house, dropping by for a visit. I asked him to meet us at the park, and then talked him into his parking spot, and we all said hi to Mr. Brad.

Rowan was having fun dragging Wesley all over the park, up onto the gymnasium pieces, and down the slides with him, while Brad and I tried to keep an eye on him while keeping Jack from eating rocks that he found on the ground.

After 10 minutes or so of running around, Rowan spotted the swings, and asked to get on them, so Brad and I put Jack and Rowan in the swings and we pushed them higher and higher, then less and less, then higher and higher, ad nausem… for a good 20 minutes or so, while we chatted about things like fishing, and bosses, and jobs… manly stuff… so the little boys knew what they had to look forward to.

After swinging, it was time to crawl up and down some of the playthings for Jack. Jack crawled up the steps all on his own on the smaller gymnasium thingy all by himself (with Dad close behind) while Brad kept an eye on Rowan, who was “borrowing” a trike that one of the other kids at the park had brought with them. Meanwhile, some mom came up to me with a whiny kid in her arms and asked if they could ‘take a quick ride’ in the red wagon. I said “sure” and thanked the little boy for asking.

Jack and I played on the gym set, and Rowan brought Wesley over to join us. The two boys then posed for a quick picture for me. After that photo, it was time to go.

We loaded up the red wagon, and walked Brad back to his truck, said our goodbyes, and headed home. We were all sort of exhausted after an hour at the park (ok, I was, but the boys seemed just fine … and Wesley was a little winded after running around so much with Rowan but he loved every minute of it).

When we got home, it was dinner time.

I put Jack in his high-chair first, and then got him a cracker to keep him busy. I then put Rowan in his chair, and got him a cracker too. Then I started Rowan’s EasyMac, while the two boys devoured a can of diced fruit (peaches, pears, and pineapple). I put all of the fruit in a little bowl, and asked Rowan if Jack could have some. He gave Jack a few pieces all by himself, and then proceeded to eat the rest of the fruit (Jack had plenty, and I had to tell Rowan that… he was more than happy to share more).

I finished up the EasyMac for Rowan, and returned to the dining room to see that Jack had stolen the last few pieces of fruit from Rowan, and the fruit bowl … heh… Rowan was looking at me like “I don’t know how he got that bowl.” Too fun!

So I put the EasyMac in front of Rowan with his fork and spoon, told him it was hot, and went back to the kitchen to get Jack’s Gerber Macaroni and Beef heated up.

I fed Jack his Mac and Beef a few pieces at a time, while Rowan worked on eating his EasyMac … blowing on each spoonful until it was cool, before eating it (smart kid). Jack got messier than hell with that dark sauce that was in the Mac and Beef, and didn’t like the beef at all (probably because Mom didn’t make it) and after a while, Rowan slipped Jack a spoonful of EasyMac, because he could tell Jack would like it better. He did.

When Rowan was done, we let him get down to chase the “Meow-Meow” (Patton), which he did very well in fact… eventually getting Patton riled up enough that Patton swatted at him. So we told the kitty good-night and locked him in the bedroom. Jack finished off the EasyMac while I wasn’t looking, and he was done with dinner too.

I took Jack into the kitchen, and asked Rowan to watch him, while I cleaned up the dishes a little, and then we retired to Jack’s room to play, after we all washed our hands and our faces.

Rowan and Jack took turns bringing me books to read to them, which I dutifully did. We had a grand old time playing until Wesley got a little riled up (Rowan loves chasing him) while I was changing Jack’s diaper. Wesley got a little crazy and scared Rowan, and Rowan started crying pretty inconsolably, so I picked him up, and then picked Jack up. And Jack starts to cry because Rowan is.

So there I am, holding them both in my arms, one on each hip, and they’re both crying so despairably that I can’t figure out how to get them to stop. They’re feeding off of each other, and I’m about to lose it. It was close to 8:00, which is when the girls were supposed to be home, so I grabbed the phone and dialed, putting it on speaker phone while holding it between Jack and Rowan.

Both boys stopped crying. Like just stopped… at exactly the same time…

They were both entranced by the phone in my hands, ringing.

Christine answered, and I asked if they were heading home. They were around the corner.

When they arrived, I handed each kid to their respective mothers, and I grabbed a beer out of the fridge. Out of the 12-pack that’s been sitting in there for a month… I generally don’t drink beer at home, but I felt I deserved one after making it through those past 2 and a half hours.

Moms have my utmost respect, and my mom has even more of my respect now than ever. It was a tough five minutes that did me in, though… just that 5 minutes where they were both crying… other than that, the evening was wonderful and lots of fun. I really enjoyed it.

Later that night, Christine and I bathed Jack and put him to bed in his brand new Superman PJs:

Man those are some cool pajamas.

See all the photos from the evening here.

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